So, I'm going to blatantly copy an idea that at least two others in our My Sacred Life blogging community have come up with as a small token of respect.
Hopefully you can read my candle (which is from Carla's company Zena Moon) but in case you can't, it says:
There are some griefs so loud
They could bring down the sky.
And there are some griefs so still
Noone knows how deep they are. ---May Sarton