Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Wellness Wednesday: Kikipotamus the Hobo and the happyluau Eat Well!

So Kelly and I have been eating amazingly well while she has been here, partially due to Kelly's dietary resolve, and partially due to the easy availability of healthy organic fresh foods here in Olympia and in my kitchen. My eating habits have changed dramatically for the last three plus days and I feel great!

Instead of eating hurried meals of whatever I can grab (healthy, organic, but processed and quick), whenever I can grab it, we are eating meals on a regular schedule. Small meals. Simple meals. Mostly vegan-esque, because Kelly minimizes dairy and gluten and sugar and fatty meats. All of these choices are so good for me. But I also need a lot of protein and healthy fats, so we have been also eating clean meats and good fat sources (like ground up flax seeds).

Kelly is the first person who has visited me who has been excited that I have flax seeds and a dedicated grinder to add them fresh-ground to each meal. Most people think that is weird and kind of crazy. That kind of symbolizes a lot of how this visit has gone food-wise and otherwise, really.

Most people think that I am incredibly eccentric, especially in my food choices, often expressing disapproval. I typically have to modify my lifestyle a whole lot to make most visitors to my home  comfortable. Consequently hospitality can require a lot of planning and effort for me to take care of myself and I usually just forget about that in order to accommodate my guests. Of course, this is not the best idea but it's what I've usually done because I love it when people visit and would much rather take care of them than me. Not that it has to be a choice of course, but in the past, that's what I've done.

So Kelly's visiting has shown me what it could be like to live with someone with shared values and lifestyle--not identical, but similar enough for comfort delight.

Last night we ate out at my favorite restaurant. I had a dish called "Tails & Trotters Pork Ravioli" with wilted cabbage and fennel, roasted artichokes and lemon-vinagraitte asparagus. At first we thought that the "tails" might be a pig's tail or an ox's tail accompanied by some type of foot (like a pig's foot). Kelly asked the waiter and we discovered that this was a brand name, "Tails & Trotters". This is a company that treats their pigs quite well and feeds them hazelnuts only as part of the finishing process so that the delicate pork flavor is infused with hazelnut. I decided to order it and it was the best meal I have ever had there.

Kelly likes to eat slowly and quietly and mindfully and I do too. Unfortunately for her I am a chatterbox at meals because I enjoy so much having someone to eat with. Still, it has pushed me in the direction of eating more mindfully, which has been helpful to is the direction I wish to move towards--not for all meals of course, because many meals clearly are social, but for solitary meals and certain meals with company. I see this as a life practice.

So I have been looking forward to each meal and ended it feeling filled but not full. Left feeling satisfied and nourished. During the day I have felt as though many of my social needs are being met and I do not feel at all interested in emotional eating at night; this is a profound change for me. I do think that the two are connected, a surprise to me as an introvert. I am certain that it is time for this introvert to branch out and seek more like-minded social connections.

So, I am wishing each of you an especially well Wednesday this week! I welcome all of your comments. I am especially interested in if and how you have any special rituals around eating that make this universal activity more meaningful to you.

PS. I have another post from earlier today catching you up a bit on Kelly and my activities...and there is more to come soon...the drums are beating at the happyluau!


Kim Mailhot said...

Lots of food for thought, wink, wink ! ;-)
Seriously, the idea of loving, quietly, carefully nourishing yourself with food that is really good for you seems like something we should do naturally, doesn't it ? Why don't all of us ?
This post will leave me thinking a lot, Miss Olivia ! Enjoy your Kelly time !

patti said...

I don't eat so mindfully -always in a rush to get to the next thing. Time to slow down I think!

Interesting observation about emotional eating and having company.

Glad you and Kelly are on the same page with your eating habits, it makes things peaceful & easy.

laundrygirl said...

I just had a conversation with my mom about this two days ago. I have been trying to stay away from foods that I know cause inflammation. Over the past two years I've been cutting out foods that make me feel badly and adding in foods that make me feel good. Because of this I have eliminated many processed foods and I've noticed I feel really good with lots of colorful foods - vegetables and fruits, berries, nuts... I still eat chicken and fish but I'm getting to a point of eating less and less pork and beef. Ideally, I just want to do whatever I can to feel the best I can.

kate i said...

It's such a profound joy to have a kindred soul to share with. I'm so happy for you both that you're able to be this for each other...and that you've found such sacred space in preparing and eating healthy food together. Sending love to you both.

Olivia said...

Thank you ladies for your good wishes and comments! My Kelly Time was FANtastic! She just left today, and I really do miss her being here. I am carrying on many of the things we did together though, as they were so affirming. I think that they will be good things to blog about too. Peace and love to you; I'm so glad that I could share this with you, xoO

Angie D in Ohio said...

Olivia... I'm not sure how I missed this posting. Anyone... I'm inspired by it. First I'm so happy your visit went to well.. it's great to be with a kindred soul; to be in sync with someone else. I don't eat mindfully at all. When I eat, if it's by myself, I'm usually reading a book, journaling, etc. and not even paying attention to what I'm eating. And if I eat lunch with friends at work we aren't eating healthy at all.

I know something has to change for me and I like this mindful, nourishing approach. Can you recommend any good reads on the subject?


Angie D in Ohio said...

please substitute to well to "so well". I need to change the font on my computer... it's way to small.. or maybe it's time I use my glasses when I'm on the computer.


Olivia said...

Oh EB, I have read many books about this, and all are good. Reading it is one thing and doing it is another. One of the best I think is "Women Food and God" by Geneen Roth. I have a rave review of it here:

One thing I'm going to do EB, is a series on Conscious Eating based on Kelly's visit. To make it more interesting, I'm going to break down what we did step by step and practice it for a few days with anyone who wants to join along. Then we can share what we learned, obstacles, etc. Doesn't that sound like fun?

But do give Geneen's book a try. I think you'd like it!

Thanks for commenting, EB. I have been slow to blog lately. I want to do one more post (which I hope to do today) about Kelly's visit, then on to the series I mentioned.

Love to you, xoO