Thursday, August 26, 2010

Back Again

Once again, I have been allowing my blog to languish. I have many posts planned in my heads but have been procrastinating until...and the days just fly by.

LoveHubbie and I have been enjoying a wonderful and intense (in a good way) visit from our son D. It is a man vacation for the two men, and one that is very special as they haven't been alone together for more than a few minutes in almost a decade. D is in his early twenties, has been married just over a year, and is technically my stepson. Because of circumstances of his parent's divorce, it has never worked out for D or LoveHubbie to have father-son time like this. The vacation started out with four rapid-fire fishing trips, two on a lake, one in a large river, and one in the ocean. Lots of male bonding time and everyone had a great time.


I stayed home and enjoyed taking care of things on the home front and processing much of what has been happening.

I react in an interesting way to guests. We only have people stay in our home that we are crazy about. I enjoy them so much and really push myself to visit, because time is always limited and there never seems to be enough of it. I hate to go to bed each night because it means our interactions are ending for the day. Often the next day, I'm exhausted, but then I push myself to have lots of together time because I want to be around my company. And...you can guess what always happens...I crash and my body protests by getting ill, even to the point once (with my closest friend) of getting shingles.

So this time has been terrific. D is staying for over a week, which we're thrilled about, so there isn't as much time pressure. And too, being alone while they are out doing man things helps me to process and nurture my inner hermit and extreme introversion (which I see as getting my energy from being alone).

Special thank you's are in order to J, who is D's wonderful young bride who was willing to let her husband go on a long vacation with his father. And to LoveHubbie's staff who keeps the office running while he is away. To LoveHubbie's fishing buddy and his fishing buddy's wife who have helped this dynamic duo out so much, including helping out when they forgot their worms and supplying them with delicious chicken sandwiches. And while I'm at it, special thank you's to all of the many people who support us in different ways, including you, my blogging friends, who are always there and who share your caring for me in so many ways. And an extra special thank you to Kelly, for always noticing when I go into hiding and gently calling me out.

13 comments:

Kate said...

Olivia,

I am so glad that love hubbie and D are having a great time. I am also
so glad that you are able to get the alone time you need.

kate i said...

What a special time for your family. Connecting and sharing and loving...it doesn't get much better than this!

Olivia said...

Thank you, Kate and kate i :) It is a fantastic situation all around. Love to you both, O

laundrygirl said...

Have a good time! It sounds like it'll be a time to remember for years to come.

Olivia said...

Thanks, Kristine; I hope that it's also the start of a relationship that will thrive in upcoming years, too. xoO

kikipotamus said...

Well, I hope it's gentle and not annoying. Thank you SO much for this wonderful post!!!! I even get to see a photo of the two guys and their big fish. If you hadn't posted a picture, I never would have believed the size of the fish.

Olivia said...

You are always gentle and full of love, never annoying, Kelly. I'm wondering if you TRIED to be annoying if you could be successful. I appreciate you and your friendship very much. Love, O

Rick Hamrick said...

O, I'm delighted to learn how well the visit is going! I mean, "well" except for the fish. He seems to be having a bad day.

Good that you have time to be alone and get your stuff handled, good that your husband and D have plenty of guy time--and guy time is weird, as it almost has to be in a big volume for it to be effective--and that you have good friends with the proper experience and expertise to make sure the fishing trips are not all about the oopses along the way, just about being together.

Olivia said...

Thanks, Rick, and I agree about the guy time being necessarily a lot and then eventually yielding good (as in close) results. It was so good! I will blog about this soon. Peace and love, O

CrystalChick said...

Glad you are having a nice visit and getting some alone time too.
It's so nice that LoveHubbie and his son are connecting again and having a good time. My sister and I didn't talk for some time after my Dad died. Slowly over the last couple years our relationship has been improving, my daughter had children which warmed things, and communicating thru FB has helped too! And even more recently over this past weekend we had much fun.
Enjoy the rest of your time with your stepson! He's a handsome young man.

Olivia said...

Thank you, Mary. I saw your pictures of your lovely visit before I saw your comment here! So your visit was even more special, then, knowing more about the history.

D is indeed very handsome, thank you Mary!

Blessings and love, xoO

lorilyn said...

I'm glad you're having this special time.

Olivia said...

Thank you, Lori-Lyn, it's good to see you here :) Blessings and good energy, O