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Welcome to the happyluau, defiantmuse! It's good t...

2008-07-27T22:18:00.000-07:00

Welcome to the happyluau, defiantmuse! It's good to see you here. You are fortunate to have such an interested partner, that's for sure. Yep, that's the thing with friends who know; I want mine to read, too. Thank you for commenting and please come back! Blessings, Olivia

hmmm....it's funny b/c I was sort of giving my bes...

2008-07-27T21:28:00.000-07:00

hmmm....it's funny b/c I was sort of giving my best friend a hard time the other day b/c she doesn't read my blog. Granted, she has very limited access to the internet but still....it bums me out....My partner reads my blog like a fiend, seriously. lol. He checks it multiple times a day. Actually I haven't told too many people in my offline life about my blog so I can have a space to write about

Kristine,It does get weird, doesn't it? Thank you ...

2008-07-27T17:21:00.000-07:00

Kristine,

It does get weird, doesn't it? Thank you for sharing how this works for you. We all have to come to some way of dealing with all of these issues, and it's interesting to see the differences...lucky lady with a caring husband!

In sacredness,

O

When I first started blogging I shared my blog add...

2008-07-27T16:47:00.000-07:00

When I first started blogging I shared my blog address with friends and family. At the time it seemed like a good idea, a way to keep people informed about my life. Yet I never thought I'd share so much about my feelings and become so vulnerable. No one reads it, at least I thought. Turns out, the relatives that read never comment and they never mention that they read. I have found out indirectly

Jessie,You wrote: "My friends though...sometimes I...

2008-07-27T13:43:00.000-07:00

Jessie,

You wrote: "My friends though...sometimes I wonder how good it would feel to have friends that were actually interested enough in ME to take the time to read about what I'm up to and thinking about." I wonder this myself. I don't know, except for you all here. And with my online community I only get a portion of closeness because all of the interaction is online. But this feels

Rick,I agree with what you write about airing ever...

2008-07-27T13:37:00.000-07:00

Rick,

I agree with what you write about airing everything, and Julia's approach. Even if the other person doesn't care at all about their actions and the effects on you, it is good to know that and to deal with it.

Sometimes I struggle with being honest and open with those who resist this approach and who have proven that they are uninterested. In you, in your feelings, in how

I've told many of my family members about my blog-...

2008-07-27T09:30:00.000-07:00

I've told many of my family members about my blog--and not one of them reads it on a regular basis. My brother did at first--but not any more. My husband does sometimes, but like your, not always.

I've told a few friends and they don't read it either.

Occasionally, I feel the same way as you--like: why don't they read my blog? Do I bore them? Do they not care?

I really understand how you feel about this, O. Ju...

2008-07-27T07:39:00.000-07:00

I really understand how you feel about this, O. Just because our feelings are not always the ones we would hope to feel as adults doesn't in any way invalidate them.

In fact, the opposite is the case: when we have a sense of being undervalued by friends or loved ones, it is really important to pay attention to those feelings.

My marvelous wife is the best practitioner I know of

Kim,It's funny, isn't it, that we're that way? Tha...

2008-07-26T20:31:00.000-07:00

Kim,

It's funny, isn't it, that we're that way? Thanks, Kim...have a good weekend,

Blessings and rest,

O

Kelly,I feel the same way you do about partners. I...

2008-07-26T20:30:00.000-07:00

Kelly,

I feel the same way you do about partners. In my case, though, LoveHubbie doesn't...it's in those ways that it is sometimes hard to accept differences. Golly gee I'm here now, so what do I do and how do I accept this? I just do the best I can and focus on other things in him I am grateful for. But it is a disappointment.

You are very fortunate in Sylvain that he is so

No, I don't get mad, but sometimes it irritates me...

2008-07-26T14:18:00.000-07:00

No, I don't get mad, but sometimes it irritates me to have to repeat myself. So I can understand what you mean.

Good topic!

I don't expect people whose blogs I read to read m...

2008-07-26T12:45:00.000-07:00

I don't expect people whose blogs I read to read mine. I don't expect friends to read my blog. But I definitely would feel the relationship was not a good fit if my partner were not interested in my posts. Michael read my blog and said, "you misquote me." Sylvain can't wait to read a new post and will get miffed if I post right before bed and he finds out after his laptop is off.

So

Virginia,You've got the right attitude, that's for...

2008-07-25T20:21:00.000-07:00

Virginia,

You've got the right attitude, that's for sure. That's what I think in my "big girl" head. The other stuff just keeps coming up for me. Maybe in time, I hope :)

Blessings and hugs right back,

O

Chani,I've got the reciprocity thing going on, too...

2008-07-25T20:19:00.000-07:00

Chani,

I've got the reciprocity thing going on, too. (Which also is silly in the same way, you're right...)

But I'll take it one step further---if it was a so-called "famous" person whose blog I visited and commented on who then responded to my comment, I wouldn't expect reciprocity. Now is that crazy or what?

This just shows me the funny expectations...

I

As for people in my life and my blog … everyone kn...

2008-07-25T19:48:00.000-07:00

As for people in my life and my blog … everyone knows about my blogs, but no one (to my knowledge) actually READS or responds to them. It is what it is … neither here nor there. I might enjoy having them read & respond (or not) but I'm content with 'what is' because I have control over no one but me. When I visit others, read a blog and leave a comment, I do so because I have

I can't say I feel that way.. but admit that I wou...

2008-07-25T19:37:00.000-07:00

I can't say I feel that way.. but admit that I would probably feeel dismissed if my *husband* wouldn't read it. Friends, I'd probably be more open-minded. Some friends might feel like you're dismissing *them. Rather than *talking*, you're asking them to go read.

My personal "thing" is reciprocity. If I visit someone continually, I will be insulted if they don't come back. It feels like