tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339250623919488760.post4598880370878900552..comments2023-05-15T05:45:19.689-07:00Comments on happyluau...exploring imperfection in 2012: ShameOliviahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06058356843151306428noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339250623919488760.post-52599504341572682492012-02-11T13:24:21.583-08:002012-02-11T13:24:21.583-08:00It takes a healthy person to do what is best for h...It takes a healthy person to do what is best for herself, while at the same time considering all of the ramifications. I think that sometimes shame is used to manipulate people because we react so strongly to it. You are such a thoughtful person Kristine...in life we can't please all of the people all of the time, that's for sure. Sometimes it seems as though we can't please anyone. IOliviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06058356843151306428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339250623919488760.post-6803331018326936042012-02-10T13:28:08.743-08:002012-02-10T13:28:08.743-08:00I have been struggling with guilt and shame this ...I have been struggling with guilt and shame this week. I have been 'shamed' and told that I am wrong because I have disappointed others. It's been difficult to shake off, to not let these feelings reside within because while I made some difficult decisions, I did what was best for me. It directly contradicts being a people pleaser...laundrygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10414456180378176592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339250623919488760.post-85042300358319096892012-02-07T13:45:42.312-08:002012-02-07T13:45:42.312-08:00Patti,
That makes sense--I may have missed that p...Patti,<br /><br />That makes sense--I may have missed that part--but it does seem that embarrassment could not occur without the social component. I'm sure you're correct. How could we feel shame alone all by ourselves, right? <br /><br />I looked it up in a dictionary and it wasn't much help...<br /><br />I would think that humiliation would have to have a social component as well, Oliviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06058356843151306428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339250623919488760.post-33624375300560755262012-02-07T13:39:04.657-08:002012-02-07T13:39:04.657-08:00Kelly,
I am impressed that you've worked on ...Kelly, <br /><br />I am impressed that you've worked on leaving shame behind...I wonder how many people have? Our homework in class was to make a "shame collage" (which I am currently doing) and I cannot believe how much shame I have and where it is from. I would have thought that most would be from childhood and religious upbringing and such, but the most toxic and strongest shame Oliviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06058356843151306428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339250623919488760.post-47686471766390998972012-02-07T13:35:24.151-08:002012-02-07T13:35:24.151-08:00Hi, Karen CL,
Isn't she great? I'm glad t...Hi, Karen CL,<br /><br />Isn't she great? I'm glad that her work is getting more and more out there. <br /><br />I think that's probably true about guilt though. Or perhaps if it's just fleeting enough for us to make a correction and that's it. Just to feel it for 90 seconds or so, decide how to modify our behavior, and then move on. <br /><br />It's an interesting Oliviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06058356843151306428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339250623919488760.post-50166764554460394092012-01-31T18:23:06.506-08:002012-01-31T18:23:06.506-08:00They all resonate with me, except I always thought...They all resonate with me, except I always thought that we felt embarrassment when we know others can see our shame(?)pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06293378341445115577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339250623919488760.post-9611141366045657582012-01-31T16:31:00.919-08:002012-01-31T16:31:00.919-08:00That is interesting. I think a therapist once expl...That is interesting. I think a therapist once explained to me the difference between guilt and shame as we were exploring the fact that I had a lot of shame embedded in me. It can take a long time and a lot of hard work to leave shame behind, or at least that is so in my experience. That's so neat that you're using Brown's curriculum. I hadn't heard of it.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08182881635816655061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339250623919488760.post-74238670182311981472012-01-31T11:11:31.368-08:002012-01-31T11:11:31.368-08:00I agree with your definitions and wanted to add th...I agree with your definitions and wanted to add that I LOVE Brene Brown's work!!<br /><br />On a side note, I recently heard something funny: we only need enough guilt to prevent us from killing others ;-)~Karen C.L. Anderson~https://www.blogger.com/profile/12079770255834481857noreply@blogger.com