Comments on happyluau: BE BRAVE: Day 6: Nothing At All

Jessie,Yes, and I'm thinking my pace is going to b...

2008-07-23T10:45:00.000-07:00

Jessie,

Yes, and I'm thinking my pace is going to be very slow in this season two, but it will be better and fit my circumstances better. What I pick AFTER integration and rest and continued depression recovery is more apropos than what I'd pick if I felt pressured and pushing!.

xxoo, O

Thanks, Carmen. It helps so much to have a place a...

2008-07-23T10:43:00.000-07:00

Thanks, Carmen. It helps so much to have a place and people who care to share it with and people who appreciate honesty, that's for sure. Joy, O

for you i think that "doing nothing" truly is an a...

2008-07-22T20:28:00.000-07:00

for you i think that "doing nothing" truly is an act of bravery. you commit yourself so fully to the things you do. i respect that about you. but sometimes i think we just need to give ourselves a little break. it probably falls into the "letting go" category. i'm glad you gave yourself a day off. and just remember that it's ok if you want or need to do it again in the future. you are a be

loving your honesty...

2008-07-21T14:24:00.002-07:00

loving your honesty...

2008-07-21T14:24:00.001-07:00

loving your honesty...

2008-07-21T14:24:00.000-07:00

loving your honesty...

Rick,Thank you for reframing this and for giving m...

2008-07-14T15:20:00.000-07:00

Rick,
Thank you for reframing this and for giving me a way to truly feel as though I AM doing fine...I appreciate you, your friendship, and support! Love, O xxoo

Claire, Hello, hello, good to see you! Well, it is...

2008-07-14T15:19:00.000-07:00

Claire, Hello, hello, good to see you! Well, it is really, really hard to post when I'm down...I'm mostly just scared to death that I'm going to lose my closeness with people. I do have concerns that I'm going to bring people down. So far at least, though, that doesn't seem to be the case. Wonderful to see you, Love, O xxoo

You touched upon one vital point, Olivia, and I wa...

2008-07-14T14:25:00.000-07:00

You touched upon one vital point, Olivia, and I want to shine a light on it: You said, "...most of my days are ordinary and some are totally unmemorable."

Quick question: how do you intend to get from today to the next day which is magical, full of excitement and the thrill of being brave as you experience another of your list of things to be brave about? You need a bridge. That bridge

i haven't dropped in for a while, but i think of y...

2008-07-14T06:12:00.000-07:00

i haven't dropped in for a while, but i think of you often... you are being very brave to blog through your vulnerability... i'm not brave enough to do it - i retreat till i feel stronger, then i post... big hugs xxx

Chani,I think there's a fine line between blaming ...

2008-07-13T17:59:00.000-07:00

Chani,

I think there's a fine line between blaming and accountability...I'm not sure where that is, and I guess each of us have to look and examine to see where we are; seems like you've done just that!

Peace,

O

In reading your comments here, it occurs to me I'm...

2008-07-13T07:10:00.000-07:00

In reading your comments here, it occurs to me I'm not ready to stop "blaming". Not in a finger-pointing, shame-shame way.. but in a way that says "I see all the damage the culture is doing to perfectly good people who should be able to enjoy their lives and probably would if only..."

Maybe I'm not evolved enough yet.. but since I've always been separate from that (the bug never bit me)

Kelly,It is indeed, isn't it. It's funny that self...

2008-07-13T00:08:00.000-07:00

Kelly,

It is indeed, isn't it.

It's funny that self-care and relaxing should be such tough skills. I find myself wanting to blame someone or something, like parents or culture, or whatever.

It does take time to process all the changes and the brave acts and just to catch up, I think.

Thanks, Kelly, always,

Love,

O

Kim, Wow, thank you, you know I never thought of i...

2008-07-13T00:06:00.000-07:00

Kim, Wow, thank you, you know I never thought of it that way. It is braver to be honest and vulnerable instead of to try to "look good". Welcome back to the happyluau, Kim, and thank you again, Blessings,
O

Chani, thank you! I would love to talk with you ov...

2008-07-13T00:04:00.000-07:00

Chani, thank you! I would love to talk with you over tea, too. I'm sure I could spend a whole evening or day even, doing that. Thank you for your encouragement.

I so want to learn to relax. I think that my day could have been different if I could accept just being sometimes...

Thank you again for your words, your friendship, and your caring,

O
xxoo

For those of us who have been programmed to believ...

2008-07-12T11:30:00.000-07:00

For those of us who have been programmed to believe our value is in what we do, it can be quite an act of bravery to claim some rest time for ourselves... time to adjust to a new sleep schedule... time to adjust to a new way of eating....

It can be brave to say, "I'm taking a nap now" with no apologies to yourself or your loved ones or the world.

Learning good self care can be

You were brave when you chose to share your vulner...

2008-07-12T05:17:00.000-07:00

You were brave when you chose to share your vulnerability with the world through this post. You are brave in your intention. Some people never examine how they can be better, that is an "ordinary" life, not yours.
Maybe if you look to the moments, rather than whole days, you will see how each one of them counts...
Thank you for sharing your journey.. I can so relate ...
Blessings,

(sigh) I wish I was closer. I would absolutely lov...

2008-07-11T20:26:00.000-07:00

(sigh) I wish I was closer. I would absolutely love to have a table talk with you - over tea. I see some thinking here that must be making you really unhappy.. and I hate to see you unhappy.

It's just.. trying to type it out in a comment forum is too long.

My main response, I guess, would be *relax*. You are not a survival machine. You are not designed to produce. You are